It bummed me out. What if I had known the person they were badmouthing? What if the things they were saying were inaccurate? Or what if their perception was created without knowing all of the information?
I felt kind of bad for the gossipers who weren’t aware enough of their surroundings to realize that they should probably find something different to talk about in a public place. In gossiping about someone I don’t even know, I have a more negative opinion of them than I would the person they were gossiping about.
For some reason, humans seem to have a need to complain about others or criticize the way another person acts, dresses or communicates. It’s the way we are in varying degrees of frequency. You can deny ever falling victim to this negative act, but unless you’ve taken an oath of silence, I just couldn’t believe you.
I’m not advocating gossip or group complaint sessions, but when you just can’t help yourself, be smart – vent discreetly to someone you trust, decide if there’s something you should address with the person who’s the source of your frustration, get over it and move on.
If you’re not discreet and the wrong person hears the wrong part of your conversation, you may have to do a whole lot of work to get to the “move on” part of things.